SEX TRICK, SAMPLE 1

Cum Swallowing Made Easy (or Less Difficult)
Sex Trick #64
written August 2005

Not a piggish wish

Men LOVE to have their cocks sucked.  Most men live their lives holding back urges, curbing their behavior (and expectations), and getting a mere fraction of the responses from women that they desire.  Nice guys, particularly.  But when a man's partner willfully (preferably enthusiastically) take his cock into [her] mouth, it strongly signals acceptance to a man in ways even a vagina fails to match.  Yes, the vagina is sensitive, special, amazing and only responsive to special persons or circumstances, but volunteering one's mouth indicates a desire to fully experience the contours, textures, tastes, smells and firmness of a man, and to play an active role in dispensing his pleasure.  As much as oral sex might be a way women "keep their men happy" without giving them their vaginas, vaginas also can be a means to keeping sex impersonal, to let a guy "get it over with" without having to experience him to such a personal and active degree.  Oral sex, especially when not rushed, clearly signals a high degree of acceptance, togetherness and reassurance.

Of course once a cock is in someone's mouth the participants are faced with the question, "what do we do when this thing goes off?"  Generally, there are four ways to deal with a fellatio-enduced ejaculation:

1. Back away clear of the penis and let the man masturbate through his orgasm and dodge anything that shoots out.
2. Have the man masturbate and cum on the giver's face and/or body.
3. Receive the ejaculation into the giver's mouth, who then spits out the semen.
4. The giver receives the ejaculation and swallows it.

This essay addresses why someone might consider option number four, and how that might be best achieved.  Over the last decade I've probably spoken to over 100 women in great detail about this topic, and maybe two dozen men who have actively participated in helping a partner breach this frontier.  Prior to writing this, I've consulted with Sophie, a few girlfriends, and some internet forums on the topic to make sure my viewpoints are current.

There are probably more people on earth than not who think that for a man to request or even wish for someone to swallow his sperm to be piggish, brutish, selfish, calloused, dastardly, dickheaded, chauvinistic, sadistic, barbarous, surly, perverted, vulgar, uncouth, monstrous, insensitive.
     In most cases, no.
     For most men, and I can speak for most men, it's not an intention to humiliate or subjugate their sex partner, but a desire to experience the one of the highest acts of sexual reciprocation.

A blow job, again, is itself a great psychological boost to any man, but swallowing is the one act in the whole sexual repertoire that reiterates acceptance like no other.  Not only is the giver interested in intimately and actively engaging the man's penis, but to willfully receive and internalize the product of the man's climax.  Not all men prefer to feel a mouth around their cock while they ejaculate, but even for those who do, swallowing doesn't change the sensations they feel.  Swallowing is an entirely optional act for the performer.

I'm lucky to have had eight different women volunteer to swallow my cum.  Of those women, only three prefer to swallow at the conclusion of a blow job (Ada, Carly and the Little Girl from Kentucky).  LGK was the first in my life to do so, and I wasn't even getting a blow job when she did it (I was jerking off, and without warning she just put her mouth around my cock when my orgasm began).  The other four women, Sophie, Sidney, Heather, Peanut and Jennifer, do so only occasionally.  Though Sophie has performed some of the most enthusiastic, exuberant, and cheerful swallowing scenes you're likely to see in your lifetime, it's not the normal conclusion to her blow jobs.  She does it when the spirit moves her, and that's usually when I point a camcorder at her while she's sucking cock.  I don't ask for more.  It's a wonderful favor, but certainly not an obligation for anybody.

The arguments against swallowing

I was curious what web sites existed, championing the cause of swallowing.  I found several, each of which made the act seem like a noble act (which it is), but almost made it sound compulsory, a mandate from all mankind, the only right way to end oral sex, and a sound addition to a healthy diet.  This is where the proponents of swallowing can get ridiculous and juvenile.
     There are indeed valid reasons why someone wouldn't want to swallow spunk.  Let's briefly look at some of them.

It's gross?  Semen is simply disgusting and how can anyone bear to swallow it, much less have it in their mouth?  Right?
     Not necessarily, but if that's how someone feels, that's how they feel, and they probably won't appreciate someone campaigning to change their opinion.  But vileness is a matter of opinion just as beauty is.  Who is to say that creme brulee is any less disgusting in texture than semen?  Each individual has different thresholds, and different tolerances for trying to change them.

It's dangerous?  It'll give you a disease or something.  Right?
     Again, not necessarily.  There's nothing in the nature of semen (the ejaculated mixture of fluids and spermatozoa) that will cause health problems or disease.  However, there are trace amounts of urine in the urethra that will be in the mixture, and there's always a possibility of small amounts of bacteria.  Neither of these pose any serious threat, as urine isn't itself dangerous even in moderate amounts, and bacteria dies rapidly from the acidic environment of the recipient's mouth and stomach.
     Nevertheless, if you're practicing oral sex with someone who hasn't been tested for STDs (sexually transmitted diseases), especially if you don't know much about that person's sexual past or preferences, you could pick up a contagion that might make you spend weeks, months or even years wishing you just gave the guy a hand job instead.  If your partner is hygienic, tested and healthy, there's really no significant risk in swallowing semen, let alone swishing, gargling, blowing bubbles with it.

It's humiliating?  Swallowing someone's cum makes you that person's bitch.  Right?
     Right, if you're an ancient Egyptian.  There are tales of the rivalry between the god Seth and his nephew Horus in which Seth attempts to inseminate his junior.  Seth (the Egyptian god of naughtiness) invites Horus to his house for a day of assfucking, and Horus complies.  At the conclusion of getting his rectum pumped, Horus reaches between his legs and catches his uncle's seed (the same hieroglyph is used for "poison") in his hands, thus escaping impregnation.  Horus consults with Isis, his mother, who helps him ejaculate and conceals his semen in a lettuce leaf, and later gives it to Seth, who eats it.  Touché.  The outcome is, apparently, that Horus gained some kind of power over (or protection from) his mischievous rival by tricking him into eating his jizz.
     Also, there are inscriptions over 4,000 years old from Egypt with statements such as "my enemy has no power over me, for I copulate in his anus."  Bet you didn't know Egyptology was so ... hardcore.
     There have certainly been other cultures that believed that sperm itself carried either curses or blessings.  Some do The famous Indian book of sexual expertise, the Kama Sutra, actually discourages men from putting their cocks in a woman's mouth because oral sex was an act of equality, and women were considered lesser.  Hence the suggestion was that if a man wanted a blow job, he should swap favors with his business associates.  On the other extreme, many parts of Asia still hold that a person's life force is partially in his semen, and to ejaculate excessively will affect one's health and lifespan.  This is certainly not true, but if one wanted to believe vitality is contained in semen, gulping it down would seem like a good idea.
     But society today doesn't really give a rats ass who swallows what.  If you swallow someone's ejaculation, it doesn't mean anything except perhaps that you wanted to do a really good and thorough job at what you were doing.  If the person you're with is in your mouth for the sake of demeaning or humiliating you, then it's probably a good idea to not go the extra mile.  But if you're sucking the cock of a decent human being, there's no domination or spiritual superiority in the works to begin with.

Religious taboo?  God created man's sperm to enter a VAGINA and fertilize an egg, and all other purposes are evil.  Right?
     Believe it or not that's the traditional Catholic teaching, stating that seed should not be wasted.  It's an overinterpretation of Genesis 38:8-10, where an ancient Hebrew character pissed God off by failing to impregnate his late brother's widow to carry on his brother's name.  Catholic tradition, apparently, put the focus on the "wasted seed" and thus created this edict about semen being only for procreation, thus nonprocreative ejaculation is a sin against God.  What a load of smegma.
     The sacred seed silliness was probably declared the same century that the Holy Church took a vote to determine whether or not women had souls.  Of course our ancient Christian clerics who threatened Galileo with damnation for declaring that earth revolves around the sun were unaware that the procreative agent wasn't semen itself but merely ONE of millions of wee beasties within the fluid, meaning that even with successful impregnation, more than 99.9999% of the procreative agents are wasted.  Damned if you do, damned if you don't.  The world is flat, the sun rotates around it, and semen is holy.
     If you insist on taking such tripe seriously, then swallowing should make you worry that you're a sinner, and you belong in a padded room.  If you adhere to a church or cult that speaks of demons entering you if you swallow ejaculate, you're in for a miserable existence, even if you never gulp choad.

The arguments FOR swallowing

There's no reason a person must swallow ejaculate, but the arguments in favor of it are actually many, and surprisingly rational.

It's fun (for both, actually).  When I ask the swallowers I know why they do it, that's their response.  Until someone commits the act, especially with the right frame of mind, they really can't know that it's fun for the performer, too.  Those who enjoy slurping a rod while it blasts report that they find excitement and amusement as the orgasm begins, feeling the penis become unusually rigid, followed by the pulsation as it goes off.  The thrill is also heightened by the gasps and spasms of the man, reeling from the satisfying ending to a great service.  The swallowing portion, they report, is a minor concern, as it's part of the reason the man is so enthralled--the realization that she's swallowing.
     A man can enjoy all the physical pleasure even if the giver spits out the result, but if the giver decides (or announces) that she's going to swallow, there's no great concern for her (or him) about getting out of the way in time for the fireworks.  The giver can simply focus on experiencing the orgasm along with the man.
     I myself wouldn't pry my mouth off a woman's vulva while giving her an orgasm from oral sex.  My greatest joy in sex is having my mouth, tongue and fingers riding a woman's pelvis along with her as she bucks and writhes through an orgasm.  I want my mouth ON that girl when it happens.  That's the payoff for me.  Experiencing a physical connection while my lover climaxes gives me not only a psychological reward, but an emotional one, too.  I don't care WHAT might be secreted out of a woman when I'm making her cum, my mouth is THERE and will stay there until I sense she's done.  While it's true I've sucked a few cocks in my lifetime, it's been 20 years since I swallowed a load, and only then I did so on special occasions, but it was for the same reason--I wanted to stay connected and deliver a big payoff.
     The performer may have to ingest a few loads before she (or he) figures out which way is most enjoyable (see "Swallowing suggestions" below).  But for the performer to truly enjoy swallowing, she must join the man in liking the idea of giving him the [psychological] ultimate ending.  She must relish the idea she's taking the experience over the top.

It's fast and neat.  Any time fluids spurt out of part of someone's body, you have a mess.  Rather than end up with wet spots on clothing, or wondering in the middle of the fun what you're going to use for clean-up, or carrying a towel around, swallowing eliminates the worry about mess.  Not only will it make your ending less messy, it may cut your post-sex chores in half.  If you're having oral sex in your car, in public, on your lunch hour, in a bathroom, or in some other adventurous manner, by swallowing, the clothes are back on and everything looks "fine" in a fraction of the time.  If the giver not only swallows, but sucks the cock for a few moments after the ejaculation finishes, it cleans the man's urethra so that he doesn't get any embarrassing spots on his pants from post-orgasmic leaks.
     Some people, particularly women, have bloodhound noses when it comes to semen.  If, instead of swallowing, the man shoots his load into a handkerchief, or a sock, T-shirt, or some other object that you must take with you, a keen nose of your neighbor, coworker, your mom, someone's dog, is likely to detect it.  Swallowing puts the evidence away.  Personally, I can't smell cum at all.  Sophie can not only smell cum from across the room, she can tell whether or not it's mine.  Amazing, huh?

It makes a guy's day.  In the introduction I mentioned how most men live in a constant state of sexual restraint, denial, disappointment and compromise?  It's not only true, it's harder on most men than words can illustrate.  Men get so used to the idea of never getting exactly what they'd like, that when someone fervently dishes it out and stays on the job with dedication and valor, it will literally blow the man's mind (which is why he might forget to tell you it did).
     The first girl to ever swallow my cum was not my dream girl, in fact she was the worst possible personality type for me, and she treated me like dirt most of the time we were together--but she remains on a pedestal in my mind for the rest of my life for doing what she did.  The second time a girl ever did the deed for me was Peanut on her 24th birthday, while I was driving down Interstate 20.  I didn't request it, nor did I expect it, but as it was happening I wanted to tear my own heart out of my chest and give it to her.  "It's actually happened TWICE in my lifetime!"  I thought to myself.  I really could have died happy that moment.
     It might even make a guy's life.

It's only fair.  I know many women who would never swallow semen, and I know a lot of men who would never lick pussy.  It's difficult to perform cunnilingus with much enthusiasm without ingesting something from the woman--maybe it's musty, maybe it's tangy, maybe it's bitter.  Sometimes it's a disturbing combination.  Women secrete from their genitalia lubricants (not unlike seminal lubrication), and varying degrees of urine, blood, mucous, sweat, and perhaps bacteria, fungus, and by contact feces, cosmetics, and medication.  Who knows, maybe there are still remnants from the last time a cock was inside?  But if your man is willing to get down there and relish your beaver, no matter what he finds (even neurotically hygienic women drop a surprise now and then--and men will never tell you because they don't want to ruin sex for you) how is it not only fair, but a bargain for you to ingest his much more palatable, predictable, and perhaps beneficial biological cocktail.
     As much as this seems like a man arguing the point, it's what I've heard from several women who think swallowing is just fair play, and all other points on the matter are trivial.

It reduces performance jitters.  The decision to swallow, especially if announced, keeps the guy and the girl from worrying about protocol.  Most guys actually worry quite a bit about the woman's comfort, and they fear doing the wrong thing, especially at the onset of a sexual relationship.  How much warning should they give?  Will the woman freak out if he leaks a little too much before his orgasm (few guys have any control over that)?  Should he be getting a rag ready?  Though the woman is doing the physical work, a guy needs to NOT be doing mental work if his cock is to remain hard and receptive.  A worried guy takes forever to cum, and that means mouth cramps for the fellatrix.
     Good communication, with or without swallowing, reduces performance jitters for both partners, but not worrying about endgame procedures, much less how and with what to mop up afterward, goes a long way to letting both simply enjoy the act.

It may have biochemical benefits.  Really.  Many chemicals people ingest--pain relievers, alcohol, vitamins--end up in the blood stream.  Semen contains more than a few biological agents that have beneficial effects on the one who ingests it.  These include:

• Endorphins.  These are the "feel good" amino-based neurochemicals that the body releases when one feels happy, ecstatic or high.  Endorphins also relieve pain, create a sense of wellness, elevate sensation, lift emotions.  Though saliva and stomach acids may reduce the efficacy of seminal endorphins (greatest highs from internalizing semen are reportedly from rectal reception).
• Testosterone.  This is the primary driving agent of both male and female sex drive, though men have 10, even 100 times as much as women.  This is the primary reason that the male and female sex drives differ in both nature and intensity.  One's not necessarily better than the other, but for a woman to get a temporary infusion from the other side might expand her overall experience.  She may arguably be more sexually sympathetic to her partner.
       Women do not need to fear growing body hair or gigantic muscles from swallowing trace amounts of testosterone in sperm.  Bukkake champions are still plenty feminine when they defend their cum-gulping titles for the third or fourth consecutive year.
• Prostaglandins.  Hormone-like regulatory and stimulatory molecules that play significant roles in many body functions, especially the reproductive and circulatory systems.
• Nutrients.  It's irritating whenever I hear people talking about sperm being high in protein.  Jesus, like all you have to do is tell a woman there's protein in your cum and she'll suck it out of you?  In that case you'd better not tell her there's protein in your blood, too!
       Yes, there's protein in semen, but protein is everywhere you turn.  Seminal fluids serve multiple purposes, including being a lubricant, a protectant for the sperm cells, as well as FOOD for the little guys.  Happily, that means semen has nutrients aside from protein.  These, I've read, include vitamins and minerals--ironically, the ones effective in supporting reproductive and immune function.

Swallowing suggestions

If you've tried swallowing and found it difficult, there are several suggestions that new and experienced swallowers have offered (many can be combined).  I've found these all over the internet, and by asking a few familiars, and here are the ones most reported that seem credible.  Many of these are efforts to dodge semen's taste or texture, or ways to become accustomed to them.

Change of attitude.  Dreading a situation is a sure way to make it unpleasant when it arrives.  Looking at any uncertain task as a challenge, or to seek the best possible perspective, can make an unpleasant duty become an honored privilege.  If a woman imagines herself a martyr when swallowing semen, she's not really doing that much of a favor to anyone.  But if she enjoys the idea of pleasing her partner, in sharing his moment, in celebrating his satisfaction, and feeling the cock respond to her efforts, the more important considerations will help minimize the discomfort in her adaptation to this new practice.
     Girls I have spoken to who "don't mind it" or even love it, say they get off so much on having a man blessing, cursing and writhing with his cock in their mouth that the swallowing is hardly an issue.

Deep swallowing.  When the penis begins to ejaculate, some practitioners take the cock as far down their throat as they can and swallow the cum as it comes out, practically eliminating the semen's contact with the tongue within the mouth.  (The tongue goes far down the throat, hence I make that distinction.)  Doing this might not be so simple at first, and much of it depends on the thickness and length of the cock, the performer's gag reflex, and how well they close their windpipe and time their swallows.  All of this can be overcome by either practicing with a friend (sucking his cock as much and as often as he can stand) and accepting the occasional choke, gag, or burst of cum out one nostril as hazards of training; or by practicing with a toy (such as a squirting realistic dildo from our toy store) filled with a liquid of similar consistency--a viscous soup (egg drop?), tomato juice, some people suggest a yogurt smoothie.  The toy route lets you avoid your slip-ups in front of an audience.  You might also want to read some of the FireGirls.com tips on fellatio (several are suggested at the end of this article).

Mint.  One sneaky method is to either have a strong mint (like an Altoid, TicTac or a peppermint or spearmint LifeSaver either before or during the blowjob.  Some have also said a Hall's (eucalyptus-menthol) lozenge or Listerine breathstrip fix the taste issue and provide a tingle for the guy (I have yet to test this, but hope to try it out).  The lasting minty taste in the mouth of a mint (regular, strong or extra strong) reduces the awkward taste and aftertaste of cum.  A smaller mint can be tumbled around in the mouth while sucking cock, making an additional potential stimulus for the man.  It might be fun for the woman, too.  But if juggling two objects in the mouth is too difficult, or if the guy's distracted by the feeling that there's a loose tooth in her mouth, you may want to finish the mint before the sucking begins.  I've also heard that a flavored anesthetic spray can have the same benefit to the giver, plus it reduces the gag reflex sensitivity.

Chaser.  Having a drink nearby helps clear the mouth and put a new flavor in the mouth, it also saves that old theatrical dash to the sink to spit and rinse.

Toppings.  Chocolate syrup, honey, or just flavored lubes.  Several report that having a flavor lingering in one's mouth helps disguise the semen.  I've personally found that my favorite masturbatory oil, which has an apple-cinnamon flavor, is well liked by a broad sampling of women, none of whom complained about the taste of my semen, even if the massage oil had long been consumed.  A delicious "foody" flavor in the mouth helps keep saliva production high throughout the act, plus flavor increases the urge to suck and the urge to swallow, actions that both encourage the cock to stay fully hard and sensitized during fellatio (cocks can be "sucked" without sucking on them).

Front-to-back.  Most complaints about semen's flavor is that it's bitter and salty.  It's the middle region of the tongue (between your hind teeth and back) that senses those flavors.  By collecting the semen in the front of the mouth, then swallowing it so that it never touches the middle of the tongue, the unsavoriness is lessened.  Some find it helpful to pause (or continue gently sucking the cock) until most of the cum (and saliva) has collected in the front of the mouth (under the tongue), and then gulping it all back in one swoop.

Holding breath.  A portion of your taste sensation comes from smell.  If you hold your breath, you reduce your capacity for taste.

Improving the flavor of the semen.  The average porn consumer is well aware of products on the market that promise to make a man's cum not only better tasting, but more voluminous, and with half a dozen other benefits.  I don't know if any of these products work as they claim, or if the foods rumored to improve cum's flavor do so (pineapples, mango, cranberry, parsley, celery, mint, cinnamon, vanilla), but the theory that the sweet, acidic properties of these foods helps neutralize the bleachy, bitter taste of cum.  Likewise, foods high in sulfur or pungent odors and flavors are believed to add to the bitter taste of cum.  Meats, fish and other high-protein and processed foods in large amounts create higher amounts of waste products in the body (urea, uric acid, oxalic acid, salts, nitrates) that might bitter-up the taste of cum the way asparagus stinks up your pee.
     All of the women who have swallowed my cum have reported that it tastes neutral, pleasant, or at least less bitter than other men they've sampled.  I cannot answer for why this is (if I knew I'd tell you), but I can say that I do drink fruit juices, alcohol (mainly Scotch, but never even tasted a beer in my life) and diet drinks occasionally, I frequently eat vegetables, too.  I don't generally eat pork products or very fatty foods.  But I don't limit what I eat on the chance that I might get an extra-special blow job, either.  Finally, I do drink a lot of water.  I don't often consume mints.
     Staying hydrated is a great idea for many sexual issues, from stamina to ejaculation volume.  By having plenty of fluid in your system, your semen should be more ample, and less concentrated.  Your body will also be more efficient at eliminating wastes that might taint your semen's flavor.  Heavy drinking and smoking contribute to dehydration.
     Every man's specific body chemistry is unique, and some men will simply have their own flavor characteristics.  I do believe our diets and habits can have an effect on this taste, but I'm certain the degree and type of change will vary greatly.

Conclusion

Even though much praise and help has been offered here for ingesting man juice, it's a plain fact that nobody needs to do this who doesn't wish to, and that by never swallowing a person does slightly (not significantly) reduce the risk of contracting STDs.  Furthermore, spitting is NOT the huge insult some guys make it out to be.  Spitting is still several degrees better than one's partner ducking an ejaculation entirely.  The man still gets to orgasm with a set of lips and tongue wrapped around his glory pole.
     But if one wishes to take their partner's and their own pleasure to a higher level, adopting new and positive attitudes about new challenges is the first and best step toward success.
     I do wish to admonish men that women don't get horny from whining or prodding, so don't wear out the issue.  And ladies, please, realize that if you've got a generous and patient lover who strives to make you feel your best, this is virtually the ultimate way to show your gratitude (though there is also anal sex).  If you wish to begin "training" with your partner, plenty of communication and positive thinking (including laughter) will serve you well.  Brainstorm together about how you'd like to get started and what you'd like to avoid.  Know where lines are drawn or what signals to give in advance.  Invent games, code words, whatever it takes to make it fun and special.  For some the adjustment will be quick and easy, others might take a few days or weeks.  No matter what the long-range outcome, any effort to improve your partner's sex life is both noble and commendable, and in the process you invariably learn something.

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