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Sign
of a True Mammal
 Tits
(or if you walk on all fours, teats) in medical terminology
are mammary glands. Mam is the latin root for words dealing
with breasts, which all MAMmals have. But the nipple itself
really only serves a mechanical function in females. The nipple,
of course, is the fawcet through which mammals deliver nutrients
to their infants. But what about men? Do men have breasts? Yes.
Just different breasts. Men do get breast cancer, even. But
who installs a fawcet without plumbing? Fortunately, whether
or not your nipples are potential dairy dispensers or mere ornaments,
they are part of the reproductive system, especially in a sensory
capacity.
Most males,
straight males, have had fantasies since adolescence (or before)
of having their way with a pair of female breasts. This fantasy
invariably involves sucking the nipples. I'm not going to wax
Freudian and say this is a regressive desire to return to infancy.
Rather, when it comes to sex, the things we love we wish to
put in our mouths--your greatest sensor for texture, consistency,
temperature as well as taste and to a degree, smell, is your
mouth. To be truly intimate with your oject of desire requires
putting it in your mouth.  Nipples
generally aren't very large, so the only way to get them IN
your mouth, and to enjoy their elasticity in the most intimate
way, you have to suck them. Nipples, generally, are designed
to enjoy that. Did the good Lord (or whatever) create that function
so women will get off with their babies? Probably not (besides,
babies tend to bite). The nipple's first and most enduring function
is as a pleasure sensor. The majority of humans cannot reach
their nipples with their mouths, hence, your nipples were designed
for you to share with others in order to truly appreciate them
yourself.
So, what
if you're male?
Girls grow
up contemplating the notion of being mothers, and the likelihood
that a baby will be sucking on their nipples. Not too far into
adolescense, they find that boys (and some girls) want to suck
them, too. But if you're male, you don't really imagine yourself
in that position. In fact, to most [straight] adolescent or
young adult males, being in that position may seem effeminate,
if not emasculating.
Up until
my mid-twenties I found the sight of males having their nipples
sucked very offensive. I remember making arguments to friends
that only homosexual males wishing they were women enjoyed such
role-reversals. Oh, the ignorance of youth. Finally, when I
was 26, I began dating a delightful soul named Sarah. She told
me that one of the things she really enjoyed about her ex boyfriend
was how much he enjoyed having his nipples sucked, and wanted
to try it with me. I was disgusted with the thought, and felt
I'd have to untrain her to liking it. I allowed her to suck
my right nipple, which I found ticklish and unpleasant. At my
request she ceased.
However,
everything changed one night while driving back to her apartment
after an eight hour drive from a camping trip together. She
leaned across me as I drove the last half hour and pulled my
shirt up and began sucking my LEFT nipple (in the U.S., that
means the nipple farthest from her in an automobile). My first
instinct was to tell her to stop, based on personal preference
and vehicular safety, but to my extreme surprise, the sensation
was exquisite! The more she persisted the better it got! My
right nipple may be a dud, but I discovered, contrary to all
my theories, that there IS a neurological connection between
the nipples and the genitalia. When we entered the apartment,
I had been stimulated for over half an hour, and we proceeded
to have sex, with lots of attention being paid to my nipples,
particularly the left one.
Chances
are, long before Sarah revealed my nipple to me, it was just
there, waiting to be discovered. I'm sure Sarah would have liked
to believe that my response was something that she, and only
she, could invoke--but it wasn't her, it was my nipple. But
my left nipple was glad she came along when she did. But nipples
aren't necessarily arousal points until a few milestones are
passed, particularly:
- Puberty.
Not until one is well into adulthood is one's body fully formed.
It's impossible to do a definitive study on this matter without
getting thrown in jail, but my strong impression is that the
nipples aren't really "wired" in most cases until
later in development.
- Permission.
You have to permit yourself to accept nipple stimulation.
You must be able to relax, anticipate and accept the pleasure
of another person's touch. If you're worried about appearances
and being "out of character" getting your nipples
sucked, you're likely to deny yourself the relaxation and
trust required to be receptive to being touched there.
Does
one's nipple sensitivity vary over time?
I've often
wondered if my right nipple would ever decide to join the game.
My right nipple occasionally may be responsive, but by far the
leader of the duo is the left. Why do I tell you this? Because
in my travels, I've interviewed more people about their sexuality
than Dr. Ruth multiplied by Dr. Drew, and I find that 50% of
people, male or female, have one happy nipple. 25% are happy
in both nipples, and an unfortunate 25% have two indifferent
or inhospitable nipples. In my experience, I started out with
only one happy one, and it remains so today. Therefore I'm inclined
to believe that nipples don't change over time, but I've heard
a few people tell me theirs change in sensitivity (usually for
the better) following major physical events, such as pregnancy,
menopause, dramatic weight loss (such as an obese person losing
100 lbs or more), after kicking a drug or alcohol habit (which
may have been numbing the senses), or some years after puberty
has ended (such as age 20 or later--see the first bulleted item
above).
But the
fact is that the only real variation in nipple sensitivity between
genders is negligible. The difference lies in mentality--women
are more psychologically prepared for the experience, whereas
most men tend to come into the game years behind women. In most
cases, due to the effects of estrogen, females have more pronounced
nipples and larger areaolae than men do. But the size and shape
of the nipple has little effect on its sensitivity. Though the
larger the nipple, the greater the variety of ways it may be
played with.
Nipple
variations.
Growing
up, if you've looked at lots of magazines, comic books and catalogues,
or watched a lot of movies, and even porn, you will have seen
a whole lot of the same kinds of nipples. What you don't see,
particularly among females who remain shirted publicly much
more than males, are the REST of the nipples out there. Nipples
can be innies and outies just like belly buttons; can be flat
or protruding like the breasts themselves; may be symmetrical,
round, elliptical; or pink, purple, tan, brown, black or varicolored.
Below we will showcase a great variety of male and female nipples.
Behold...
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Nipple
Stimulation.
There are
dozens of ways to stimulate a nipple. Likewise, the intensity
of contact required to arouse someone through nipple play is
as diverse as nipples themselves. To some, only very light contact
is pleasant, but pressure and friction are uncomfortable. For
others, light contact can't even be felt, whereas pinching,
twisting, pulling, biting and even electric shock brings legitimate
pleasure. It's best, with any partner, to start of as light
as possible and let him or her coach you in achieving the most
effective degree of contact, suction or pressure.
Among the
methods one may use to stimulate a nipple are the following
(nipple play may enhance your partner's arousal during genital
stimulation):
- Gentle
tracing with the fingertip or tongue
- Tickling
the nipple with a feather or cloth
- Gentle
rolling or pulling with fingertips or lips
- Lightly
raking fingernails or teeth across the nipple
 Light
massage with oil- Firmly
rubbing across the nipple with finger, tongue or penis
- Slow,
gentle licking
- Lightly
tracing the nipple with a firm object, such as a pen cap
- Biting--gently
or with some pressure (be careful with hard biting)
- Biting
or nibbling outside the areaolae
- Licking
or sucking around the nipple, but not the nipple itself
- Use of
syrups, oils, whipped cream or other food items to enhance
the fun of nipple sucking
- Continuous
squeezing, twisting or pulling
- Rhythmic
squeezing, twisting or pulling
- Firmly
tapping
- Place
finger directly on nipple and press, rapidly wiggling finger
- Rapid,
light licking
- Rapid,
firm licking
- Simple
kissing
- French
kissing
- French
kissing with suction
- Slapping
(do not slap the female breast hard)
- Firmly
pinching, or pinching/pulling
- Use of
nipple clamps, clip-on nipple jewelry or other accessories
 Nipple
Accessories
Most sex
shops have nipple accessories nearly anyone can enjoy. There
are rings, clamps, tassles and other items that adhere to the
nipples by adhesive, suction, and most frequently, by pinching.
For those that prefer a more permanent and radical enhancement,
there's nipple piercing. Piercing comes with risks (infection,
scarring, nerve damage), but when done in a sterile environment
by a knowledgeable piercing artist, risks are minimized.
Most individuals with pierced nipples report that their nipples
remain aroused and sensitive while the studs or rings are in
their nipples. For those who don't desire such an extreme
measure, the clamp-on, non-piercing attachments offer stimulation
(for males as well as females) on an as-desired basis.
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